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Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Family Feud: Your Professional Facebook Page & Family

As soon as I read this first word of the text from my sister I knew I had to raise my shields.
“Your own Facebook page with 260 friends? With mutual friends? And not ONE of your family? That is really f*#@ed up!”

OK, let’s have one of those back in time moments like on TV when the screen starts to get wavy and the narrating character’s voice starts to get that echo effect and I’ll drop a little history on you viewers at home.

There is a Sullivan Family Facebook page where all our family and friends can read the latest adventures of our daughters ongoing potty training and people can look at pictures of things we may never even look at again ourselves and leave comments such as “I love this” and my favorite, the simple “Awe, CUTE!”.

Then there is the Ty Sullivan Facebook page where I gather all my social media and business friends to share in like ideas and subscribe to my groups and items of interest that would otherwise have my Sullivan Family followers racing for the exits like the audience at an Adam Sandler film.

So, the question came to mind, is it me? Have I committed a heinous social/social media faux pas?  Is it alright to not invite family and friends to a Facebook page you created for “another purpose” sans the evil intent of a Senator having somewhere to post “hottie shots’ of himself?

I opened the question up to the #UsGuys Twitter morning coffee gang and got answers ranging from the hilarious, “Separation of Church and State” (thanks Barry Peters) to the “Oh Hell to the NO” response like “I don’t even friend my family on my regular page!” (You tell them Brandie McCallum). But in the end it was a clean draw on the responses. Half said it was OK, half said heck no.  There was only one way to solve this.
It was time to turn to the Jedi of Social Media manners to restore order to the galaxy.
To call upon the Emily Post of new media.
It was time to summon the Divine Diva of etiquette, Dabney Porte who runs Twitters #SMMANNERS chat.

Dabney stated that there was no harm in mixing the two worlds for are we not the same people on both Facebook pages? She made a good point of saying its OK to let those that know you in the social media realm see you in your day to day life. It enhances the human factor that sometimes is hard to get a handle on in a medium where there are some that are not who they claim to be. It adds leverage to your authenticity factor. People like to see the other side of the person who may just post “statistical articles” or “just the facts” blogs.

Dabney does a heroic job merging all her chats, Facebook pages and her website and she does this freely because she wants everybody to share in what she is doing. She wears it all on her sleeve as do I.  I am open, authentic, and have nothing to hide. You want to know me? Look on my blogs, Facebook and Tweets, and there I am. If you don’t see what you want to know? Ask me.

But as for merging the Facebook pages? I guess it all comes down to a personal choice. But what say you fair reader? What do you think?

Inquiring minds want to know!
And Dabney….And me….and the guy reading your iPad over your shoulder…And so on and so on…And So it Goes....

You can follow Dabney Porte on Twitter @DabneyPorte and on
Barry Peters on Twitter @barrypeters
Brandie McCallum on Twitter @lttlewys and @SenseiMarketing


  1. My Facebook page mixes a little of both worlds. I'm particular about who I friend on Facebook, only people I "know" (online or IRL) who might find the latest Mostyn Medical Mayhem interesting. Mainly, if you want to hear about the "Marketing me" follow me on Twitter or LinkedIn, but if you want to know the "after hours me" (ER visits and all) then we can be friends on Facebook. With that said, I do occasionally post important "personal" social info on Twitter/LinkedIn and "Marketing" updates on Facebook, but only if they're relevant to the audience that I'm connected to on those sites.

  2. I tend to mix the two as well. I do find, however, that I am very aware of what I am saying - and how I am saying it.
    None the less, I like the idea of having two, but, honestly, unsure if I can manage yet - one more account!