Family Feud: Your Professional Facebook Page & Family

"Seriously?”

As soon as I read this first word of the text from my sister I knew I had to raise my shields.

“Your own Facebook page with 260 friends? With mutual friends? And not ONE of your family? That is really f*#@ed up!”

OK, let’s have one of those back in time moments like on TV when the screen starts to get wavy and the narrating character’s voice starts to get that echo effect and I’ll drop a little history on you viewers at home.


There is a Sullivan Family Facebook page where all our family and friends can read the latest adventures of our daughters ongoing potty training and people can look at pictures of things we may never even look at again ourselves and leave comments such as “I love this” and my favorite, the simple “Awe, CUTE!”.

Then there is the Ty Sullivan Facebook page where I gather all my social media and business friends to share in like ideas and subscribe to my groups and items of interest that would otherwise have my Sullivan Family followers racing for the exits like the audience at an Adam Sandler film.

So, the question came to mind, is it me? Have I committed a heinous social/social media faux pas?  Is it alright to not invite family and friends to a Facebook page you created for “another purpose” sans the evil intent of a Senator having somewhere to post “hottie shots’ of himself?

I opened the question up to the #UsGuys Twitter morning coffee gang and got answers ranging from the hilarious, “Separation of Church and State” (thanks Barry Peters) to the “Oh Hell to the NO” response like “I don’t even friend my family on my regular page!” (You tell them Brandie McCallum). But in the end it was a clean draw on the responses. Half said it was OK, half said heck no.  There was only one way to solve this.
It was time to turn to the Jedi of Social Media manners to restore order to the galaxy.
To call upon the Emily Post of new media.
It was time to summon the Divine Diva of etiquette, Dabney Porte who runs Twitters #SMMANNERS chat.

Dabney stated that there was no harm in mixing the two worlds for are we not the same people on both Facebook pages? She made a good point of saying its OK to let those that know you in the social media realm see you in your day to day life. It enhances the human factor that sometimes is hard to get a handle on in a medium where there are some that are not who they claim to be. It adds leverage to your authenticity factor. People like to see the other side of the person who may just post “statistical articles” or “just the facts” blogs.


Dabney does a heroic job merging all her chats, Facebook pages and her website SocialMediaGirlFriends.com and she does this freely because she wants everybody to share in what she is doing. She wears it all on her sleeve as do I.  I am open, authentic, and have nothing to hide. You want to know me? Look on my blogs, Facebook and Tweets, and there I am. If you don’t see what you want to know? Ask me.

But as for merging the Facebook pages? I guess it all comes down to a personal choice. But what say you fair reader? What do you think?

Inquiring minds want to know!
And Dabney….And me….and the guy reading your iPad over your shoulder…And so on and so on…And So it Goes....

You can follow Dabney Porte on Twitter @DabneyPorte and on SocialMediaGirlfriends.com
Barry Peters on Twitter @barrypeters
Brandie McCallum on Twitter @lttlewys and @SenseiMarketing

HELP! Leadership, Mentoring & The Beatles

 

What is “HELP”? Well, besides it being the blood curdling yell to summon someone who just happens to have a great big “S” under their dress shirt, it’s one of the words all leaders should have in their top 10 terminology list.

 In this case it has two meanings: the classic definition of aiding someone who requires assistance but it also serves as an acronym inspired by one of the greatest Beatles tunes of all times, “Help!”

Help
Elevate
Leadership
Potential

We can all agree that a great leader knows how to take their troops from point A to point B to help them achieve both the leader and the troop’s goal in succeeding. But an even greater leader knows how to see something in that person that they may not even see in themselves, and mentor them to the level that they didn’t even know they were capable of.

“Help! I need somebody. Help! Not just anybody. Help!  You know I need someone, HELP!”
A good leader can see when someone has the right stuff. A better leader knows how to answer the call for HELP in a manner that encourages and supports the individual rather than coming to their rescue. Instilling a sense of independence and confidence become the building blocks for their personality. Anyone can give instructions, but, to truly teach is to be a true driving force.

“Help me if you can I’m feeling down, and I do appreciate you being around”
A good leader’s job is to keep spirits and morale up with words and actions of encouragement. But a great leader gives them the crutches they need to lift themselves up when they fall.  Leadership is about getting others to wake up, make their dreams come true and realize their true potential.

“Now my life has changed in oh so many ways …”
John Lennon, used to light a fire under the lads when the vision of success was dimming. He would ask them “Where are we going, fellas?” And they would shout, “To the top, Johnny!” “Where’s that, fellas?” “To the toppermost of the poppermost!” . They knew where they were headed. There was a target.  A goal, and John, as their “leader” had a destination. A vision with a definitive desired result.  A leader leads the team or individual to a destination, otherwise that person is just in front of an assembly of people as the Nowhere Man.

Why not find that person or person in your company and take them from Yesterday into today escalating them into tomorrow with your mentoring. They will become great leaders themselves due to a little help from their friendly leader!

“Our care and dedication to our children will be reflected in the generations to come.”

- Chantal Wiebe

You can follow Chantal on Twitter @chantal_wiebe